Why We Have Such a Weird Relationship to Intimacy

I am by no means an expert, it looks like there are many books one can dive into to learn about the different eras of sexual expression in society.

However, here are some of my takeaways from my experience, as someone that works in the intimacy space.

1). physical touch isn't deemed "ok" in our modern society unless it's sexual (so it's needed and we crave it!) this creates a power dynamic, and almost like touch can only happen in certain scenarios or if we create the right circumstances for it to happen. People can get in their head a belief such as if something is wrong with me, I can't be touched or I'm not desirable if it hasn't happened, or certain events have occurred.

2). conditioning - being a 90's kid, it seemed like sex was in all of the songs, movies, TV shows and there was this..... weird, taboo energy behind it. Like so much pressure to get lucky or get laid, but we couldn't really own it. It felt like you need to be cool to do it, but don't really embody it consistently .. keep it hush hush, or on the down low. This created lots of mixed messages. Get it over with. Be hot, but not too hot. Unleash your self, but only in that one specific way.

3). patriarchy/different eras - part of my awakening journey has unveiled that at different points in culture and society, women's power was honored and adored. Sensuality could be a part of that, and put onto a pedestal. Some churchy times and beliefs deemed sex to be impure or sinful, therefore making some people feel guilty or shameful.

What else? What has been your experience surrounding intimacy?

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